I hate the excuse of “I’m busy”. I get it, people are adults and we all have lives. Some of us more so then others…but still. I also understand that things come up. But to say your busy every single time you are invited over or asked for help is insane. 
Busy….it means to have a great deal to do. 
It doesn’t mean pick priorities and ignore those you shouldn’t. It doesn’t mean that there is never any time for friends or family. And it doesn’t mean you can continually blow someone off. 
One can be busy and still make time for friends, family and fun. One can be busy and still have a happy marriage, be a successful parent and have a sanitary house. 
I am a stay at home mom. What does that mean….we’ll to people like my brother in law “a stay home mom does nothing, and has nothing better to do then cause drama”. Ouch am I right?! 
I’m a stay at home mom. I work on call nights and weekend as a scheduler for a caregiving against. I run out local mom group. I am a full time college student working on my Bachelors degree. I am on the policy council for our local Early Head Start. I have my daughter enrolled in the program and we have play and learns as well as home visits weekly. I am a wife, a sister, a mother, a daughter and a friend. 
I am busy……
But I am never to busy to help, talk, or just listen. 
Nobody else is either….they just chose to not be there….